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Premature ejaculation is one of the most common, (if
not the most common), forms of male sexual dysfunction. It is estimated that at present time there
are 37 million men in the U. S. alone who are considered to be premature ejaculators. But what
is PE? How is it defined?
For years premature ejaculation was defined as: "persistent or recurrent ejaculation with
minimal sexual stimulation before, during, or shortly after penetration and before the person wishes it." Of course,
this begs the question, "How long is "shortly after"?" One minute? Two minutes? Five
minutes? This is where the definition ran into problems. Men, being the way they are, wanted
a number. They wanted to know the answer to the question, “How long is long enough?”
Of course, no one could say. This forced researchers to redefine the term.
The current definition of premature
ejaculation goes something like this: "the inability to delay ejaculation to a point when it is mutually desirable
for both partners." This comes a little closer to an accurate description. How long a man is able to participate
in intercourse is not the most important issue in diagnosing premature ejaculation. The crucial issue is whether or not the
man is satisfied with his performance and if his partner was able to climax, or was at least satisfied wit the duration of
the experience.
But once again, the process of defining PE ran into difficulty.
Subsequent studies of female sexual response revealed the startling truth that up to 70% of women cannot achieve orgasm
through vaginal stimulation alone. That being the case, are all their partners victims of PE?
No. They simply need to explore their own personal reality, broaden their sexual practices, and
find other ways to reach climax.
Premature ejaculation comes in two variations:
primary and secondary. A man with primary PE is a man who has always had the problem, a man who has never
consistently had sexual experiences that he might think of as “normal”, meaning they were satisfying for him and
his partner. A man with secondary PE is a man who once had satisfying sexual relations, but then developed
PE, either rapidly, or slowly over time.
Both variations of this condition
have their own brand of agony attached to them. A man with primary PE doesn’t even know what it’s
like to feel like a “real man”, sexually. It’s an experience he’s never had.
On the other hand, a man with secondary PE has experienced it, and therefore he knows what he’s missing.
Each is painful in its own way for those who suffer from it.
The triggers of PE have been debated over the years. And
I say “trigger” rather than “cause of premature ejaculation” because they are two distinctly different
things. The “cause” of PE is a single, consistent, physical reaction to a number of different
triggers. There is only one real “cause” of PE, but there are many “triggers”.
One that everyone agrees on is “performance anxiety”. A man in a sexual
situation is anxious, a little nervous, about performing well, about pleasing his partner, and in fact he’s a little
bit scared that he might be laughed at, or mocked, or ridiculed, or thought to be less of a man. This anxiety
becomes the trigger of premature ejaculation. As much as he wants it to last, subconsciously he wants out
of a tense situation as soon as possible.
Another trigger that’s agreed on is “learned
behavior”. As an adolescent or young man, there may have been frequent episodes of masturbation,
where there was a desire to not get caught at it. It needed to be over with as quickly as possible.
Even in sexual situations with a partner, it might have been in the back seat of a car, or after school in the bedroom,
right before the parents come home. Either way, there was “a need for speed”. This
became a learned behavior.
However, this is where the consensus ends. Other things
that are theorized to be triggers for PE include excitement levels that are too high, or excitement levels that are too low.
Testosterone levels that are too high, or testosterone levels that are too low. These theories contradict
one another.
Another potential cause is fatigue, although no one has been quite certain
how that translates to premature ejaculation. Another study pointed the blame at hypersensitivity of the
penis, but a subsequent study of men with this problem showed no difference in sensitivity between men who have PE and men
who don’t.
As you can see, there are many different opinions out there, and when you
see that, you know that the mystery is not yet solved. There is one thing that is certain: this problem
has a devastating effect on the man, on the woman, and on the relationship. Rather than learning to live
with it, or hoping that it will go away by itself over time, or feeling like it’s a topic that’s too embarrassing
to discuss, a solution should be pursued.
Until now, that solution was elusive. How do you treat something when no one can
agree on what causes it? How do you treat something when there are so many different causes, all
of which seem to be legitimate? How do you treat something when there are so many different treatments
being suggested and you don’t know which one to pick?
It was very difficult, until now.
In this book, you will find out what causes your PE. It will explain the different causes,
how they can all be true. It will explain the different cures, how they can all work for a small percentage
of men. It will answer your questions, it will set you on the right path, it will lead you to a life long
cure. The only thing left to do is decide that you want to take action. Order it today.
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